Why I’m Totally Done Apologizing For Things
How many times a day do you say “I’m sorry” for things – for being late, talking too much, when expressing sadness or sorrow for someone or something … basically for every little thing?
Yeah. I’ve lost count, too.
You see: the thing is, the words “I’m sorry” don’t really ever accurately portray what I mean nine out of ten times. If you think about it, it’s almost got a negative connotation to it – and most of the time – saying THANK YOU is so much more meaningful and effective. I recently read an article about the power of saying thank you – and it hit me like a ton of bricks.
One of our best friends is a grief counselor for children, and she told us that telling someone your sorry is not nearly as meaningful as other things that you can say.
In a genuine effort to be more positive, I’ve stopped saying “I’m sorry” to every little bump in my daily road.
If I’m late? I don’t say I’m sorry.
Instead: “Thank you so much for patiently waiting for me, I appreciate it.”
If I mess up? I don’t say I’m sorry (unless the situation really warrants an apology).
Instead: “I messed up, and I’m going to do what I can to righten the situation.”
If I hear someone has lost of a loved one? I don’t say I’m sorry.
Instead: “My heart is hurting for you, and I’m here for you if you need someone.”
By being genuine, and being real … well – it just means more. Simply saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t